So im 13 nw yeah i knw its early anyway yah ive always known im lesbian. Ive datin alot of guys but it didnt feel ryt at all ( guess i ws in denial ). Well in 6th grade a new girl came 2 our boading school she was amazing. Anyway i knew i liked her but i bushed it off but after living with her 4 a mounth my feelins grew nd were uncontrolable i started staring @ her, i wud hold longer hugs n stuff. Everyone wud ask if i liked her i jus laughed anyway we ended up dating n i become lesbian a year later most of my friends knw nw n so do my cousins my parents arent ready they are both pastors with der own church. It felt gud 2 realease all dat stress a secrect brings i havent found my perfect lover bt my looking. Mwa!

I guess I have always known i was gay. Since I was little I used to have dreams that I was getting married to girls. Where my sister was dreaming of marrying 'ROCKY' who was a big hit at the time. I grew up with both my parents and we were always told to be opened and honest with each other. So when I was 12 I told my mum I had feelings for girls. She some how figured and convinced me it was just that I wanted to be like these girls that I was getting mixed feelings from it. So the issue was dismissed. I was always a girlie girl so it was harder for my parents to really grasp the fact that it was true. I had my first kiss to a girl when I was 14 (my sister even witnessed it) and it was dismissed as experiementing. When I was 15 I had my first real girlfriend and we were together for 3 years. During this period my paretns sort of figured that, Hey I must really be gay. Im now 19 and still a lesbian and im glad my parents taught me to open and honest with myself or else life could have been alot harder. Alot of people have problems in admitting they are gay to themselves and deny it for years and dismiss it. I am lucky that now my parents expect me and my lesbianess even though they my not fully understand. Aw, and my friends have always known I was gay.

Ive known that i was a lesbian for roughly 3 years now, and had just started working at the local village pub. I am 18 years old and cant handle my alcohol intake! One night at work, i got fed up with all these middle aged men asking me out, buying me drinks, asking to come round after work blah blah blah... and every time i heard myself saying..."I'm sorry love, you're not exactly my type".

However, one night, after work and a couple of pints, i blurted out "I'M GAY" - ideally when my boss (Claire) was out having a fag!

After a couple of weeks begging everyone in the pub not to say anything to either Claire or my Auntie, who ironically has a shop opposite the pub, until i can bring myself to tell everyone else.

Again, on a Friday night after work, i didn't intentionally get drunk it just happened, and stayed with Claire in the flat... SO I thought to myself this was the point she had to know. Cuddles and tears later she managed to get it out of me... and replied.." Chloe, I thought you were about to tell me you were going to quit this job... i don't give a monkeys whether you're a lesbian, or a three foot blue alien, as long as it means i don't have to find anyone to replace you!

Since then, i have been able to talk to Claire about anything, she tries to get the girls from the RAF base just down the road to take me out :P. And she also has persuaded me to come out to my Auntie across the road. Which i did 2 weeks ago... and consequently found out she is bisexual. I have also spoken to my best mate, she was slighted miffed that i hadn't spoken to her earlier about it!

At this point in time i can't talk to any of my immediate family, as they stand for traditional values and such like... but i will tell them... just not too sure when. But coming out has been such an uplift, it's made me feel accepted into a society, and it gets rid of that niggling feeling that you have had for ages in your head!

love Chloe xx

Coming out to my friends wasn't too difficult. It was actually only last year and I hadn't had many friends before that so when I started my Culinary Arts class in my Junior year of high school and made all these new friends I told them right away. They were talking about their boyfriends and everythign and they asked me and I just said it. I said, "I don't have a boyfriend but my girlfriend is pretty cool." I didn't know how they would react but everyone was really ok with it. Coming out to my mother was a totally different story. I was afraid to and I was actually pulled out of the closet by my mother when she caught me flirting with my best friend's straigh cousin. But she was completely ok with it. So I guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm 34 and have two kids. I knew I was definately gay when I was 26 but was stuck in an unhappy marriage playing the "happy family". Met someone online in desperation. We live other side of the world but are still together and aiming for the future. Been through a hard divorce then even worse was last year when my folks got suspicious about my g/f coming over from Oz each year to see me. I admitted it and am disappointed with their attitudes. All brushed under the carpet...never mentioned and when she comes over they go abroad for 5 weeks. Very hard as only they officially know and my sister, cousin and auntie. My cousin and auntie are fine but daren't tell my parents they know. I am stuck bringing up my boys as a single parent and keeping up a front and my parents don't have to say a thing because I know they are very disappointed, very disgusted and would prefer me to live and suffer in silence than be out and proud. Very sad and very disappointing for me but one day I will get my happiness when my boys grow up. My ex husband doesn't know and I need to keep it quiet there because I get enough problems with him as it is without him having this to throw at me...so silence it is for the time being and I just bet there's so many in the same or similar situation to me. All the best. S x